When Stacy was 19 years old, she got into a relationship with a heavily influential guy who was an ‘entrepreneur’ of sorts.  Before meeting her boyfriend, Stacy maintained a 3.3 GPA in her college studies, remained close to her friends and family and maintained her goals of becoming a professional businesswoman.  But shortly after meeting her boyfriend, Stacy’s friends noticed a drastic change.  For one, she didn’t hang out with them as much, she was very tight-lipped about her new relationship, and she was on her way to being put on academic probation and had picked up some new and dangerous habits.  This is a classic scenario on the dating scene – a nice young woman hooks up with the wrong guy and soon becomes just like him, picking up his low-life qualities and going nowhere fast.  So the old clichés ring true – birds of a feather flock together and if you want to be successful then you must surround yourself with successful people.

So if it is possible to be with someone who you claim has brought out the worst in you then it is most certainly possible to be with the right person who uplifts you, helps keep you grounded and keeps you striving for more.  Isn’t the point of most relationships, whether they are friendships or romantic involvements, to be intellectually stimulated and to be exposed to new and different things?

Here are some reasons why being in a healthy relationship with the right person can help you exceed your limitations:

Healthy relationships foster and promote a constant support system.  Whenever you’re experiencing bouts of sadness or incompetence, your mate is your backbone.  At the same time, they are also there to congratulate your many accomplishments and are there to keep pushing you when you feel like giving up. 

In the same token, the right mate will also let you know, constructively of course, when you are falling short on your game.  We all temporarily lose sight of our goals and ambitions from time to time and while your mate allows you your personal space, he also makes sure that he does all he can to keep your eye on the prize.

I’ve read many celebrities quoted in articles saying how their spouse or significant other has been the driving force in their success.  Even Kim Porter has said that it’s impossible to be around Diddy and not pick up on the attributes that have made him who he is today.  Being around people who possess qualities that you someday wish to obtain is a surefire way to get ahead.  It’s the reason why you will see those with similar backgrounds and  similar career paths as friends.  They learn from each other and offer one another a hand up in the game. 

The best relationships are those in which your eyes are opened to new and different aspects of life.  Before Yvette met her boyfriend, she said she never listened to indie rock music and never thought that she would end up going on multiple ski trips.  But since meeting Tony, she has been exposed to a completely different world, one that she would have never known about had it not been for him.  Being around someone you like and admire will cause their interests to rub off onto you. 

That being said, it is equally important as women to also bring something to the table.  Expose your man to something that you are interested in.  If you enjoy going to the museum, take him with you.  If you like wine instead of beer, order a nice bottle of Merlot the next time you two go out for dinner.  Show him who you are and that you have much to offer.  The bond you create when sharing these differences is unmatchable.  

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