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Guilty
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Whether or not we want to admit it, we watch our men. We silently, or in some cases, quite vocally question them on where they are going, what they are doing and with whom they are doing it with. We check cell phones and pagers, wallets and pockets, waiting for some shred of evidence that proves what we have been thinking all along; that our man is up to no good. The sad truth about this is that we have all done it. We smile and laugh and cuddle when they are near us, but the moment they step out of our sight, the wheels start turning and then the most dangerous weapon in the world begins to take action; the woman’s imagination. We begin to create scenarios and situations, placing our men into scenes they probably would not be involved in. We rarely actually talk to our men about these suspicions, in fear of prompting them to bring reality to our qualms and make us dig further into our belief that men simply cannot be trusted. One of the major problems
with this thinking is that it is clear Time has proven again and again that the right woman can tame even the wildest man. Again our fear of being alone supercedes our common sense and reason when it comes to our men. If your man has given you clear indications that he cheating on you, or if he disrespectful of your feelings and needs, then its time to be honest with yourself and realize that he is simply not the one for you. If a man is really into you and wants nothing more than to please you, he will make that clear. He will volunteer the information you sneak around to obtain and will be honest with you out of a simple fear of losing you. Not saying that your relationship will be perfect and love will override it all, but when you have a good man, there will be a distinct difference in behavior from this one and the ones in the past. Take time to clearly pay attention to the good attributes of the relationship instead of waiting for him to mess up and hurt you. Good men are not as hard to find as we may think. We just have a tendency of focusing on the wrong things. As women we need to refocus on the positive instead of waiting for the negative. Even our government tells us that we are innocent until proven guilty. Shouldn’t our relationships deserve the same?end
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| Brandelyn N. Castine graduated from the University of California, Berkeley with a degree in English. She is the author of Everybody Plays the Fool, a novel and Spoken Silence:Life in 4 Parts, a volume of poetry. She currently resides in Oakland, California where she is working on her new novel. Click Here to Visit Her Blog. |
evidence
that we as women have been trained to think of men as being untrustworthy
and liars. We take the hurts and unfaithfulness from the
past and apply it to the next, causing an unnecessary build up
of drama and mistrust that is preventable. 9 out of 10
brothas that we encounter are what we can call a good man. No
one is perfect, we all make mistakes, but a man who can handle
his business, take time out to make you feel special and is about
something is a man worth investing in.|
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