Getting Down
- Corey Cunnigham

During a recent trip to Ibiza with a couple of my boys, the inevitable happened; we got drunk, we got girls, we got laid. Every guys dream vacation realized. But the next morning our ‘friends’ awoke rushed and frantic, stumbling to put on their clothes as they flashed the embarrassed “I don’t usually do this” smile. They stuttered their goodbyes and did everything they could do to slip away from the hotel room unnoticed.

Could these shy young ladies possibly be the same women we had met the night before? The ones that took shots like Russian sailors and had the inhibitions of Lil Kim? Girls who had danced on the table top and won three games of strip poker. Gone were the dirty jokes and giggles, left was a sense of regret and empty Grey Goose bottles.

After they left, I quickly checked my breath and B/O; nothing wrong there. So I decided to ask one of the girls who stayed what was going on. Her reply; “You know how guys think about girls that give it up on the first night. It’s just embarrassing to look you in the face, knowing you’re thinking we’re sluts or hoes. But that stuff doesn’t faze me, I’m here for the free breakfast.”

Slut? Hoe? These words had never crossed my mind, but could she be right? While I was thinking of about the good time that could be continued later on tonight, did my friend think I was calling her dirty little names in my head. Well I was, but not the ones she was thinking. Sexy little names that reminded me of the wild and pleasurable night we had just shared.

Where had she, and tons of other women, gotten this idea? Why do they think we have these harsh judgments lingering in our mind about a girl that gave us a good time? Were many women misled about the thoughts of men? Far from our minds are the judgmental, critical thoughts that ladies seem to project into our heads. We save that for wives and girlfriends.

As one of my boys puts it, most guys think “that girl wants sex and I do too!” Believe it or not, all we think about after the act is that we had sex. Maybe good sex or bad sex, but it was sex and that it might happen again if we were as good as we thought. Sex on the first night takes away all the fake stuff that we feel the need to do to get a girl in the sack. We don’t have to lie or try to impress a woman in hopes of getting her in the sheets. This saves both men and women, and we get a relationship without much of the hassle. We both find out if the sex is worth furthering the relationship, and we save time and money in the process.

It may just be me, but women are always pointing that ugly finger at others for doing their sexual thing. I have had female friends say “she is confusing sexuality with independence” and “she is such a whore” or “How long has she known him!” It seems that the only people who are casting an evil eye on the sexual freedom of women are…OTHER WOMEN. Ladies don’t get mad, because it’s true. The look that women get from other women when they leave the club with a guy could kill an elephant. Why this is, I don’t know. Jealousy, contempt, the list could go on for miles.

But with men it’s simple. Sex is sex. We don’t want to have to make character judgments, for us the first part is hard enough. So ladies the next time you find yourself scrambling for your clothes after a great night of sex, look over your shoulder at the guy in the bed. He is not showing any signs of embarrassment, and neither should you. Don’t worry about what he thinks, because he’s probably not worrying about what you think of him. Stay a while, take a shower, do your hair; just make sure you leave b4 breakfast. Just kidding! end

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