The term “gold digger” has been around for a while.  It refers to women who date men for money and once their materialistic appetite is fed, they move on to the next meal.  She is the type of woman who has no standards; the men she deals with may be married or single, just as long as his bank account exists.  And if it’s not bad enough that she’s using him for money, she will do anything to keep the cash flow coming, more specifically—sex.  Do gold digging women really know what their getting into? Is there hope for them?

PLAYING OR GETTING PLAYED

Getting expensive clothes and jewelry may be a reward but at the expense of her self-respect.  In most situations, it’s what I call digging for fools gold. She thinks it is about receiving anything she wants, when in reality, he’s getting the sex and will probably never miss the money spent on buying her things.  She is digging for something that will never have any value to her in the end. 
The question remains, however, whose playing who?  We’ve all heard the term ‘game recognize game’.  After asking a number of males their intake on this, they all came to the same bottom line.  If a woman appears to be the type that is instantly attracted to money, then the guy will flaunt the fact that he is rolling in it just to get the panties. However, if he comes off as having the average bank account, then he is interested in her.   Telling her how much he really makes will be a later discussion.  The fact of the matter is money comes and goes but the loss of self-respect and innocence from a woman will last forever.

IN TOO DEEP

The mystery for some people is why some women have a gold digging mentality.  When did it begin?  The primary reason may be the fact they have gotten use to the lifestyle of having and getting whatever they want from men.  Maybe these women dated someone who showered them in material things and money.  Meanwhile, the love that they may or may not have for the guy degrades to infatuation, and the love for money takes over.  Let’s be honest about the situation. A guy can see when he’s being taken advantage of, and in most cases, he will end the relationship because of that.  The next guy who comes along will have money, and the cycle will continue until she meets the ultimate player.  This lifestyle can easily become addictive, but like any addiction, has a price to pay. 

Being a gold digger will never allow a woman to appreciate the true love that a man can give her because their eyes only see dollar signs. 

S.O.S. (SAVE OUR SISTERS)

Black women already have the stereotype of being Jezebels and money-hungry whores.  Why prove them right?   For the most part, these women should think about the consequences of being a gold digger.  They are not really getting anything for free, if they have to give themselves in the process.  As a woman, we have to save ourselves from the stereotypes and falling into an endless pit of sexual exploitation. 
Saving yourself will first require you to know that gold digging is morally wrong and know hard work from both individuals go a long way.  Nothing in life is free; it never has been, and never will be.  It then requires knowing that your true worth can be measured through the works you do for others.  If a woman only takes and takes, she has no heart for giving valuable things in life, like real love. 

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