So my bf and I often have these relationship debates. The most recent one asked the question: if one chooses to date outside their race, does that choice say something about their racial solidarity? Do Black men who date White, Latina, Asian etc...women have less Black pride then men who only date Black women? Same could be applied to Black women who date men who are not Black.

I think you fall in love with who you fall in love with. If you grow up in a neighborhood surrounded by white women and u happen to be a black man, your options are white women. So you feel more comfortable around them.

I happened to date a black guy who grew up in the HOOD, I mean shoot-outs and all. He went on to a boarding school (all white) and then college (mostly all white). So he picked up proper language (most ppl recognize this as "talking white") so he wasn't your average hood nucker. I dated him when I fist turned 20 and he always told me, "black girls don't show me love, they think I am white". They didn't give him a chance because of how he talked. However, white girls liked him. Now is that his fault? You only get as far as your options.

I just don't get guys who date outside of their race based on stereotypes of their own race of course.