I’ve been dating my guy for about a year, in the beginning of our relationship things were really rocky but we’ve worked out or differences and have become very fond of each other, we spend all our time together, and we connect in every way. Now before we got together, my guy was in an incident where he was shot, and a friend of his had a weapon, but my guy ended up taking the rap for his friend and he is now serving 6 months in jail. My problem is, I’m recently received my degree in accounting, and I’m a very driven, and independent woman. Even though my guy is only in jail for 6 months, this incident will always be on his record, meaning finding a job, and obtaining certain goals maybe an issue. I don’t want to leave him because I love him dearly, but I’m thinking about our future, and wondering if our relationship could really work?

- Birdie Jane, 25, ATL

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I understand that you love your boyfriend and want to stick by him through the whole ordeal.  I also commed you for sticking with him for this long, but you really have to think about your future on this one.  Many times in a relationship love isn't the only factor that will create a successful partnership or marriage.  You may love him dearly but if you two aren't compatible in one area it will eventually affect other areas of the relationhsip.  The question you have to ask yourself is do you really want the burden of being a successful woman with a good job while your companion struggles to find a job because of something that happened in the past and has no control over.  If the answer is yes then stick by him, but if the answer is no don't be afraid to let go in order to find someone that compliments your attributes.

Signing Off, Hollywood

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