I am 25 years old, great shape, cute face, I have a college degree, no kids, and I live on my own. My boyfriend is 28 and has 2 children both under the age of 10. He’s been my man for 2 years and I love him dearly. However, I have issues with his children’s mother.

- Alana ,25. Rochelle, NY

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"No man appreciates another man raising his kids" and this holds true for women also, especially when another woman is in the picture. Even though it's a good gesture that you buy the kids gift, you may make the mother feel inadequate, like she's being replaced. Being the new woman in the situation regardless of how long your with the man that fathered her children. There's nothing wrong with buying the kids gifts but it's when you buy her children toys etc... without first letting her know, remember your the girlfriend and she's the mother. So she may feel as if you are venturing into her territory, It's her job to provide for her kids, after all she is the one who carried them for 9 months.

I think you should try to talk to the mother and see if you can come to some type of common ground. When you have a chance ask to speak to her concerning your feelings and how you both can make the situation a lot better for all of you. Let her know that in no way your trying to be a threat as far as her children are concerned and that your trying to make peace. It wont make everything great overnight but at least she will have an understanding of where she and you both stands. If you love this man and plan on being with him try to defuse the situation with "COMMUNICATION".

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